Category Archives: Career Success

Once in a While You Get Shown the Light …

November 20, 2013 – Have you ever considered mistakes that you’ve made? Most people I’ve spoken with admit to having made “a mistake or two” in their lives. But how do they determine that they made a mistake? What criteria … Continue reading

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Red Light, Green Light, 1, 2, 3

August 29, 2013 – Recently I was reminded of the childhood game we used to play in the school yard during recess: Red Light, Green Light, 1, 2, 3 (“RLGL”). Remember the game? The person who’s IT turns away from … Continue reading

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Doggie Heaven

August 12, 2013 – Jackie and I decided to get away for a few days with our pack of three dogs. But where to go? Most campgrounds that allow dogs limit the number to, at most, 2 dogs. Our pack … Continue reading

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Maintaining Drive and Engagement Even on Low Energy Days

June 3, 2013 – While driving to a client meeting last week, I was struck with my low energy level that day.  Not only that day – it seemed to me that I was in a low energy period for … Continue reading

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EXAMINING LIFE – LIVING THE MOMENT

April 24, 2013 – Ever find yourself daydreaming about the past or wondering about an alternative present? What about living with constant anticipation about what’s coming next? Lest you think this thinking is limited to people of a certain age, … Continue reading

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Start Living Your Life! What’s Stopping You?

January 29, 2013 – I was driving down the Hutchinson River Parkway the other day, mulling over recent and upcoming events in my life and the lives of those around me. And I caught myself considering alternative courses my life … Continue reading

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“I Can’t Take This Anymore … Or Can I?”

December 26, 2012 – Our power came back on at 1:28AM late Saturday night/Sunday morning, November 4th: We were in the cold and dark for over 127 hours since Sandy took out the power in our area. Super Storm Sandy … Continue reading

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The Way of Self-Forgiveness

October 19, 2012 – The Jewish High Holy Days ended recently culminating with Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement. It therefore occurs to me that a discussion of the concept of forgiveness – whether asking forgiveness of others or self-forgiveness … Continue reading

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Meetings – The Building Blocks of Relationships

July 26, 2012 – Continuing last month’s article on meetings, let’s consider how meetings are the building blocks of relationships. And since today would have been my dad’s 87th birthday, I’m gratified to share another of dad’s lessons in the … Continue reading

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Furthering Creativity – A Tale of Two Keys (Part 3)

May 30, 2012 – In the first two parts of this topic, we discussed the two keys to furthering creativity: 1. Broadening your perspective helps you identify more dots to connect; and 2. Thinking outside the box helps you discover … Continue reading

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Furthering Creativity – A Tale of Two Keys (Part 2)

May 10, 2012 – In Part 1 of this article, we quoted Steve Jobs’ definition of creativity (“simply connecting things”) and began a discussion of the two keys which further your ability to open the doors of creativity. The first … Continue reading

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The Power of Venting

February 9, 2012 – While reading an article today on breaking impasses in mediation, the question was raised whether or not venting helps people get past their emotions in order to reach an agreement. Although the author of the article … Continue reading

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Groundhog Day

February 2, 2012 – Today is Groundhog Day and Punxsutawney Phil told us to expect another six weeks of winter. Would that knowing the future could be so easy and effortless. Alas, we mortal humans don’t have it so easy. … Continue reading

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Stress Revisited

January 25, 2012 – One all too common challenge faced by everyone is stress. Stress is an integral part of life. Stress motivates us to accomplish our goals. As such, stress is desirable. Left unchecked, however, stress has the power … Continue reading

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Speak the Same Language

January 1, 2012 – Today is New Year’s Day, a time to contemplate resolutions for the coming year. Topping many lists are traveling to foreign countries and learning a new language. And what’s the biggest challenge in traveling to a foreign … Continue reading

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Creatures of Habit

December 6, 2011 – We are all creatures of habit, which is to say, we are all created by, and the products of, our habits. Habits, by and large, are good things. They provide the necessary shortcuts which enable us … Continue reading

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Breathe and Relax

October 25, 2011 – Breathe. Relax. Two key words to live your life by. The two go hand in hand. In order to truly relax, you need to breathe naturally and calmly. And to breathe naturally and calmly you need to … Continue reading

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Sensationalism is Good for News – But not Life

September 12, 2011 – Looking at any newspaper headline, or listening to any news station, in the northeastern United States over the last month and you will have seen sensationalist newscasting/journalism at its finest. Disasters, real and anticipated, from earthquakes, … Continue reading

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In Gratitude to Blaze

August 16, 2011 – Yesterday, August 15th, was the 42nd anniversary of Woodstock.  Although I was a few years too young to attend, the Woodstock aura impacted me such that I felt as though I was there. Yesterday was also … Continue reading

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Imagine the Possibilities

August 8, 2011 – So much has happened – so many changes – in my life this summer. All of them good things by any standard. In chronological order: we moved; my oldest son got engaged; and Jackie and I … Continue reading

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Prime Conditions for Being Engaged

May 23, 2011 – While at a meeting the other day, I mentioned some of the research and work I’m doing on engagement and the response from the other side of the table was a smile and the words “that’s a … Continue reading

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The Funnel – Parts 1 and 2

PART 1 April 13, 2011 – Marketers and sales trainers often rely on the metaphor of the funnel as a visualization of the business growth process. We create a funnel with a wide opening on one side to pour in … Continue reading

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Dream On

March 24, 2011 – We often talk about setting goals and devising action plans to achieve those goals. Such is the hallmark of first determining strategic plans and then tactical moves to achieve that strategy. We do this all the … Continue reading

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Long Live the Story

March 1, 2011 – We went to see Cesar Millan, the Dog Whisperer, last week at the Bergen PAC. The Dog Whisperer live onstage? Yes, you read correctly. Cesar is taking his dog rehabilitating, human training message on the road. … Continue reading

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In Memory of Doug Goldstein

February 18, 2011 –  Thursday morning I awoke to the sad news I had anticipated and dreaded: Doug Goldstein, a friend I’ve known since college, passed away the night before. Although not unexpected – Linda told me on Tuesday evening … Continue reading

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To Label or Not to Label

October 10, 2010 – To label or not to label, that is the question.  Have you ever given serious consideration to the use of labels in your life?  Think about how often and easily we resort to labeling ourselves and … Continue reading

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Reflection, Introspection, Motivation.

September 13, 2010 – The unofficial end of summer (Labor Day) has come and gone.  The new school year has begun, and we are in the middle of the Jewish New Year season – a time traditionally devoted to reflection … Continue reading

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‘Tis Easier Said Than Done

July 26, 2010 – Today is my father’s birthday.  Dad would have been 85.  At first blush, my dad had a charmed, easy life.  Dad graduated Harvard Law School, was an accomplished attorney, built a successful real estate business, was … Continue reading

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Living In The Moment

June 27, 2010 –  Last night we went to see, hear and experience the Furthur concert in Coney Island.  Furthur, for those who don’t know, is the current incarnation of the Grateful Dead.  Let me begin by saying that the … Continue reading

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Harnessing Stress, Part 1

May 7, 2010 – Stress caught up with me this week. Blindsided me, as a matter of fact. Going about my regular routine of work, writing, teaching, working out and, of course, family, I couldn’t figure out why I was … Continue reading

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Resilience in the Face of Negativity

April 14, 2010 – I’ve spent a great deal of time over the last half year researching positive psychology and putting its teachings into practice. The fit between positive psychology and my coaching background is nearly seamless. And yesterday I … Continue reading

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Southern Cally Meditations

March 20, 2010 – Sitting in the hotel dining room in LA this morning,  I was struck by just how different coaching my clients is from helping my children. I flew out to LA yesterday to spend a few days … Continue reading

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Responding to a Nor’easter

March 14, 2010 – In my last blog entry I talked about positive, transformational change, forward looking attitude, and hope for the future. As I sit at my desk in my house darkened by last night’s black-out, thinking about the … Continue reading

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Transformational Change

February 14, 2010 –  A few days ago, while deleting old emails, I came across the farewell memo I wrote on the occasion of leaving a law firm eight years ago. My departure from that firm was not of my … Continue reading

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Positive Change

February 5, 2010 – Few things excite me professionally more than experiencing real life applications of principles I’ve read about. Recently I came across research suggesting that success and well-being are founded on four pillars: positive emotions; meaning; engagement; and … Continue reading

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Happiness Considered

January 23, 2010 – The last few months of 2009 found me exploring the field of positive psychology, which has often been referred to as the science of happiness. Although often given short shrift in the business world, research has … Continue reading

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