{"id":507,"date":"2012-02-28T14:40:35","date_gmt":"2012-02-28T19:40:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/resipsacoaching.wordpress.com\/?p=507"},"modified":"2022-11-17T14:04:13","modified_gmt":"2022-11-17T19:04:13","slug":"guest-blogger-karen-mcmahon-foster-healthy-communication","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/driveconsulting.net\/blog\/?p=507","title":{"rendered":"Guest Blogger: Karen McMahon &#8211; Foster Healthy Communication"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.driveconsulting.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/02\/DRiVE-logo.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-thumbnail wp-image-875\" title=\"DRiVE logo\" src=\"http:\/\/www.driveconsulting.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/02\/DRiVE-logo-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a>February 28, 2012 &#8211; I am pleased to announce that Res Ipsa Moments will host guest bloggers from time to time. Our first guest blogger is Karen McMahon, a colleague and fellow iPEC coach, with a blog entitled &#8220;Foster Healthy Communication.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Consider the Possibilities<\/p>\n<p>Adam J. Krim\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <a href=\"www.driveconsulting.net\">www.driveconsulting.net<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Foster Healthy Communication<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t make assumptions. We often react to our perception of our loved one\u2019s actions or words and completely misinterpret their meaning. For instance, \u201cIf he loved me, he would take the trash out, it\u2019s all I ask!\u201d, or \u201cthe one night I watch sports with the guys she nags at me, she doesn\u2019t appreciate all that I do\u2026\u201d\u00a0 In each of these statements, the speaker is looking for acknowledgement and validation.\u00a0 What might the receiver of these statements hear? Stop and question your interpretations.How true is it that:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>If your spouse does not take out the garbage, he doesn\u2019t love you?<\/li>\n<li>If your wife is asking you to stay home instead of going out with the guys, that she doesn\u2019t appreciate you?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>And for the person making the statement, what are you really trying to say?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>It makes me feel heard and loved when you do little things like taking out the garbage.<\/li>\n<li>I feel appreciated for what I do and respected when you understand I need my time away from the family.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Instead of talking about our feelings, we end up fighting over money, sex, chores or the kids.\u00a0 Yet, it is always how we feel that is at the core of the problem. If you talk things out candidly and focus on how you feel instead of the details of the situation, small upsets can turn into blessings; opportunities to communicate and grow closer.Be completely present and listen to what your partner is saying \u2013 don\u2019t be constructing your response while they speak.To make sure you understood them, repeat to your partner what you heard them say and ask them if you understood them correctly.Often what we hear and what the other person said are two different things.\u00a0 Reflecting back one\u2019s words during a conversation helps to foster clear communication and deeper appreciation of one another.The average couple spends more than 10 times more time watching TV than talking to their spouse about their relationship. Put time aside to talk to you children and partner about what is going on in your relationship. Specifically, how you are feeling and what you want and need from the other and you will see your relationship grow deeper and stronger.We would love to hear your thoughts on the struggles you have had with communication in your marriage.<a href=\"http:\/\/www.driveconsulting.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/02\/mail-google-com.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-551\" title=\"mail.google.com\" src=\"http:\/\/www.driveconsulting.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/02\/mail-google-com.jpg?w=132\" alt=\"\" width=\"132\" height=\"150\" srcset=\"http:\/\/driveconsulting.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/02\/mail-google-com.jpg 753w, http:\/\/driveconsulting.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/02\/mail-google-com-264x300.jpg 264w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 132px) 100vw, 132px\" \/><\/a>Karen McMahon, Certified Divorce Coach &amp; Master Energy Practitioner, wrote this post. Karen is the founder of KM Life Coaching and co-author of \u201cNavigating Your Divorce: A guide to the Legal, Financial and Emotional Basics,\u201d a free ebook. Karen\u2019s passion is to work with men and women going through the divorce process; helping them navigate the difficulties while focusing on personal growth and embracing the opportunities that lie ahead.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>February 28, 2012 &#8211; I am pleased to announce that Res Ipsa Moments will host guest bloggers from time to time. 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